Will it EVER happen???

Well, I finally asked THE question to our agency and finally got somewhat of a more "firm" reply. For some time now, I have been wondering if maybe I missed an email or some sort of communication from our adoption agency that stated they had received 5 referrals and it was really going to be a banner year (though of course I knew in my gut that couldn't be true). In the world of adoption, your mind tends to hold onto those last threads of hope. Those threads are pretty thin right now. The question I asked was, did I miss something or is it really true that the last (and ONLY, I might add) referral was in December? The answer...

"We were hoping to have another one by six months, but I just communicated with Taiwan. You are right, we haven’t had any infant referral since December. We may not have it for a while. I talked to Taiwan last week, and they don’t have any infant available at this point. Originally we were told 6 months now we are expecting longer referral time. In your case, it could be more than 3 years."

Ouch. So, what do we do?? Do we switch agencies? No other agencies seem to be taking applications at this point. Do we switch countries? Sticking with our agency, China is our only other option (it's a small agency). In my mind, I knew that the wait could be three years, but to hear that it could EXCEED three is beyond comprehension. We WANT to do this. We feel like GOD is telling us to do this. WHY is it so hard???